Using Your Gifts and Telling Your Story
I believe that we all have our own unique gifts to share during our adventure (holiday?!) on Earth, but for a lot of people the very thought of speaking up and sharing the wisdom learnt on your journey (good and bad!) makes you squirm…
I don’t know about you, but I’m kinda done with keeping myself small. I’ve experimented for 30+ years and it’s time to accept that keeping my words and experiences to myself are not helping Me or the people who may benefit from my story…
I’ve been slowly letting go of being bothered by what others may think of me, my experiences and my vulnerabilities. Speaking up and finding myself standing alone doesn’t seem as dangerous as it once did. I’m beginning to actually believe that other peoples opinions of me are not my business, and so it does not affect me. These are a handful of reasons why I feared speaking up and aloud for most of my life.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? ~ Marianne Williamson
Personally I’ve had a lot of resistance visualising or imagining myself free of my fears because it means that I might actually have do/say/share what it is that I am so afraid of! My mind is too clever and is like “Uh-uh, no way! Let’s go back to our safe place“.
It has been a slow process of untangling the fears and beliefs that have kept me ‘safe’ all these years. Learning not to fear my own voice has been a journey of trying everything under the sun. I’ve spent hours trying to figure out how to overcome, lets just call it what it is: Fear of Public Speaking, or in my case Fear of Publicly Speaking About Myself! I have experimented with:
Hypnosis: I fell asleep every. single. time.
EFT or Tapping: This was (surprisingly!) particularly helpful and something I still often use. Nick Ortner has a great book that has most of the common ‘human complaints’.
Affirmations: Google Louise Hay, she’s the Queen of affirming positive messages.
Guided Meditations and visualisations, You Tube marathons, books…..
It wasn’t until I found myself in the situation of co-hosting a workshop recently where I would be required to speak publicly, talking about myself and my experiences that I realised how all of this work I’d done over the years had worked. And really, how amazing is my spirit?!…even though it scared me to death I refused to give up and accept that I’d just have to live my life hiding, because I know that I have something of use to share and say to somebody who needs to hear it! It might only be one person but that’s ok, I can live with that.
When we challenge ourselves to overcome trauma or face fears and/or limiting believes, we need to treat ourselves as we would a dear friend: be gentle, compassionate and patient. When your stuck in the grittiest parts of yourself and you feel like you just can’t move forward, remind yourself why your doing the work.
What are your gifts?
What is the message you want to share?
What wisdom have you gained from your unique experiences?
If you have something that you long to share with others, whether it’s through your voice or a gift unique to you, I feel that is a pretty good indication that there is someone out there that needs to hear or receive it. Stop making it about yourself and focus on the impact you can make by using your voice or that special something that only you can give.
There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you ~ Maya Angelou